Social media has opened manifold promising doors to more than half of the world’s population indifferent of their age, gender, beliefs, education, and occupation. It is a given that social media is becoming a requisite to majority of the people for marked academic, business, and professional purposes. Tremendous changes are apparent in their lives, constantly transforming the way they seek out information, express and entertain themselves, and interact with others. Social media's compelling power to influence this new generation of social reality may be the most pronounced form of development in terms of economics, politics, sociology, aesthetics and by all means, education. However, such revolutionary, effortless platform is not all gains and beauty. The favor social media brings about could switch over like there is nothing to it—cyberbullying, decreased productivity, diminishing privacy, narcissistic tendencies and anti-social behavior are among the negative outcomes to which some are paralleled with long-term consequences.
Social media has become so powerful that it is apt to destroy: reputations, social skills, and even highly regarded interpersonal relationships. In just one click, it can end years of adolescent romantic relationship or friendship from the drama, deep-seated issues and arguments thrown out from the involved parties. In this era of great technological advancement, social networking sites become the new relationship capital where most couples assume comfort in publicized relations. But, hereafter, it is in the nature of the beast that made their relations bleed. For interpersonal relationships to be established and sustainable, updates should be critical and confined, and are not made regard for love.
Social media has become so powerful that it is apt to destroy: reputations, social skills, and even highly regarded interpersonal relationships. In just one click, it can end years of adolescent romantic relationship or friendship from the drama, deep-seated issues and arguments thrown out from the involved parties. In this era of great technological advancement, social networking sites become the new relationship capital where most couples assume comfort in publicized relations. But, hereafter, it is in the nature of the beast that made their relations bleed. For interpersonal relationships to be established and sustainable, updates should be critical and confined, and are not made regard for love.
What comprises social media posts
Reflect before you click before everything that is meant to be private becomes public. Relationships and feelings are becoming less private nowadays, and everyone knows everyone else’s business. And now, a simple fight turns into breakups and 'friendship overs' with back and forth posts through media. Then, other people who are not part of the matter is getting involved and is taking sides. And, the fight that could have been given solutions by two people is a fight that is now exposed to and fueled by an entire friend group. Social media when treated as haunts for announcements and information incline people to share even the tiniest fractions of happenings in their lives that they conceive to be worthy of sharing through captioned documentations, or status updates. There is nothing wrong of using Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram as first-line platforms to edit, select and share emotional whiles. However, all these feelings and sentiments should be censored, and not be encapsulated and kept hyped on the given platform. It should only be bare and daubed snapshots of the authenticated letter and picture-perfect events that ensued.
Every single time I got into a fight with my partner, I immediately looked for my phone and posted something about it instead of talking to him directly. I have posted our relationship's arguments and drama. I guess you guys already know what happened next. The issues were never resolved. Hence, I am glad that I have learned my lesson. What I’m trying to say here is that there are reasons why you should put immediate and rational attention to your updates on social media. #DoingItTooMuch
Frequency of social media posts
Reflect before you click for it may promote drama. Public presence is the highlight reel. Heedless posts, undeterred by having only a few Facebook friends or Twitter followers, when publicized are receptive to individual or group-based bashing. Screenshots are taken with ease and are prone to be disposed from one chat group to another, or worse, to be surfaced all over the internet. The love for social media is a hot mess when personally experienced. But people should remember to value privacy. Not everything should revolve around social media. Think of conflict resolutions in person, not online, and definitely not on his or her Facebook wall. Never use Facebook or any other Social Networking site as a place to vent and humiliate your partner. Ever. Relationship updates should not at all and be constantly put on display for the world to see. People need their adrenalines checked when already posting consecutive and unnumbered updates. Limitations, therefore, should be embraced so as not to constrain invasive and unhealthy effects in a relationship.
If you keep on posting your whereabouts, it gives your followers and “frenemies” a chance to stalk your significant other. Have you ever thought that if you post something and you’ve tagged your partner, it would be a great opportunity for them to find something bad about them, scan through their posts and whatnot? I bet you don’t want these things to happen.
If you keep on posting your whereabouts, it gives your followers and “frenemies” a chance to stalk your significant other. Have you ever thought that if you post something and you’ve tagged your partner, it would be a great opportunity for them to find something bad about them, scan through their posts and whatnot? I bet you don’t want these things to happen.
Personal over simulated connection
Reflect before you click for it can cause a competitive element in a relationship; expecting the other to post how he or she possesses the best character traits in person. Striving to achieve more personal sense of connection, instead of broadcasting praises, merit more desirable and nourishing impact on a relationship's outcome. Disagreements are bound to happen between two people when expressiveness in their posts are presumed measurement of each of their affection to one another. Although it has become customary to be out and proud about being in a relationship, what is more deserving of worth is the genuine connection and contentment the involved people are. These intimate moments are fundamental to the development of a solidified relationship and are not intended for publicity for it may cease the sense of what it was assumed to be meant for. Real relationships demand real conversations, not between the lovers’ manifested avatars, but between the real persons they truly are.
A friend of mine broke up with his partner because she claimed he didn’t post as frequent as she did. Thus, she thought he didn’t love her enough, and worse, she thought he was cheating on her. Seriously? Just because a person does not post about you on social media, or is not as expressive as you are on Facebook, does not mean he or she does not love you enough. I admit, I was this kind of person before, because of my love for social media, I began to get jealous of what others have. I started to envy those girls whose boyfriends post something about them. I started to compare our relationship with theirs. But then, I realized, if you are a couple with a solid relationship, you actually don’t have to constantly post anything about it. Especially if they are private. If you are happy with your relationship, that’s great! But you don't have to prove that it is.
In today's tech savvy society where almost everything is plastered online, media outlets are what most people live up for. Even personal commitments have taken the big leap wherein Facebook statutes become 'In A Relationship', profile photos are replaced with ones that contain the couple's display of affection, and selfies be reacted with a 'Heart' by their respective significant others. These 'relationship goals', as dubbed by netizens, mislead them to unrealistic high expectations out of their relationship than what’s actually possible. The actual goal in a relationship is the genuine happiness in being together and not in posting about being together. Social networks cannot make anyone do anything unless they try to. It has a clearly substantiated negative effect depending on how it is directed for use. You have a choice so start making better ones.
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